Patterns That Serve, Patterns That Don’t

I have been meditating heavily about two of my favorite Blackbelt Leadership Principles this week:

  1. Life is 10% What Happens To Us and 90% How We React To It and
  2. Everything Happens for a Reason and Serves Me Well

This morning I was also thinking about patterns; Tony Robbins speaks a lot on these two, and specifically how some patterns serve us well and others don’t.

Obviously, the value of that knowledge is to discover our patterns, and which are which and do more of those that serve us and less of those that don’t.

I believe that lesson also ties intrinsically to the Blackbelt Leadership principles I have been thinking about, and am writing about and sharing with you today, AND the quote I led with, “things do not have meaning; we assign meaning to them.”


So what do I mean?

Well, it has dawned on me recently that the 10/90 rule and the everything happening for a reason and serving us well is not only true in their obvious sense…

to me it’s been obvious, at least for a decade or so, that my reaction to what happens is more important than what happens; and that in looking back on the “bad” things that happen, they often aren’t as bad as we thought at the time and, very often, even serve us well.

I have even understood that the latter principle is an attitude more than a skill.


My most recent revelation on the subject, though, is that both principals are as true as we choose them to be…

that is, we not only choose how we will react to a stimulus or challenge, but also how we feel about it!

We get to choose our reactions (physical, mental and emotional) and, thus, will whatever happened to serve us well.




AND this affects the patterns.

When we react in a certain fashion, we fall back into old disempowering thoughts, actions and beliefs that keep us wondering in the dessert instead of crossing into our promised land.

But if we can pass the tests this time, by replacing the erroneous and detrimental thoughts, emotions, and patterns with new and powerful ones….

I am getting fired up!


This writing is serving me quite well today!

I hope the reading of it serves you well too.




Prepare To Live; Empower To Lead!

Grand Master Stephen J. Del Castillo
Founding Master Instructor, Krav Maga Martial Arts


p.s. if you are part of my Blackbelt Leadership program, I have a greatCertified Instructor Training (CIT) class for you this Saturday at noon!

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About Grandmaster Stephen J. Del Castillo: Grandmaster Del Castillo is the founding Master Instructor of Krav Maga Martial Arts and has been empowering lives in Pasco and Hillsborough Counties since October of 2000. He is a 7th degree Blackbelt, MBA, author, mentor and success coach, a US Army Veteran and a proud father and grandfather. He is married to Ms. Barbara Del Castillo who helps him run the school. Grand Master Del Castillo began his training in the early 80’s and has high level blackbelts in Tae Kwon Do, Karate, Premier Martial Arts and Krav Maga Martial Arts as well as experience in kickboxing, Jeet Kune Do and Jiujitsu. He has high level instructor certifications from BBSI, IKMF, and KMG and has been featured in numerous Martial Arts publications and also Success magazine. He was a competitive sport karate and American Kickboxing instructor until he enlisted in the US Army where he served in the 82nd Airborne Division, where he won an Army Green to Gold scholarship and proceeded to ROTC and the University of Tampa. He was commissioned in 1992 and went on to serve in Germany with the 3rd Infantry Division and then in several other posts in the US until he left military service to pursue his dream of creating KMMA in 2000.

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