This weekend an awesome Blackbelt Leadership student of mine, Dave, told me:
“Don’t beat yourself up; look at how far you’ve come.”
And, while this is generally good advice, there is another side to the story that led to meditation this weekend and ultimately to the writing of this blog.
- It is true that we should never beat ourselves up. On the contrary, we should embrace mistakes and failures and learn from them!
- It is also true that I have come a long way! Probably, so have you!
- Finally, and herein lies the lesson, it is also true that I do not beat myself up- but I do hold myself to an incredibly high standard and I do regularly and frequently, perhaps incessantly, seek ways to make whatever I am doing better. Upon meditation this weekend, I believe that’s one of the most important secrets to my success and how far I’ve come.
It is an interesting dichotomy.
I teach my instructors to “be a good finder” as their first skill; and this is to say that I want them finding the students doing something right.
Yet, with myself (and to some degree my team) I look for what we’re doing wrong.
But, while this is dichotomous, it is also easy to explain.
The student is a beginner. They most likely have a fragile self-esteem and most assuredly are trying something new that they’ve never tried before.
The student both deserves and requires more focus on what is right than what is wrong- particularly at the beginning and of course we also refine and improve their technique, fitness, focus and all of it on their journey to Blackbelt Leadership Excellence.
My team and I, on the contrary, are not beginners but professionals.
It is our job to be Great at what we do.
And we are. (see, no lack of self-esteem there).
In transparency, I think we are the best at what we do.
But here’s the thing….
I also consummately believe that we can be better.
So that’s also what we do; explore ways to be even better at what we do each and every day.
And that’s why we’ve come so far and will just keep going!
Prepare To Live; Empower To Lead!
Grand Master Stephen J. Del Castillo
Founding Master Instructor, Krav Maga Martial Arts
Author of Developing Your Superpowers Meditations On Mastery Vol One
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